5 reasons why nobody listens when you talk

You love to give advice, but you hardly take or listen to other people's advice

 

 

You realise that your words mean little or nothing to your friends, family and colleagues. This situation can be frustrating for you especially when the issue you want to address is extremely important.

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While this could be unfair, it may be that the problem lies solely with you. According to All Women Stalk, here are reasons why nobody listens to you when you speak.

1. Being a mr-know-all: You love to give advice, but you hardly take or listen to other people's advice. In case you haven't noticed, nobody likes a know-it-all. Learn to respect people's opinions and quit thinking you are smarter than everyone else.

2. Being a talkative: People would actually get tired if you talk all the time about nothing in particular. You give people the impression that you love to hear the sound of your own voice.

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3. You grumble a lot: Negative vibes turn people off and complaining is one of the best ways to spread negativity. When you constantly bug people like you're the only one experiencing problems, people will pull away from you quickly and you'll lose friends fast.

4. No one trusts or believes you: People will stop listening to you talking when they believe that your word can't be trusted. They feel you taint the truth with lies which is actually a serious issue. Your reputation is at stake which means you have a lot of work to do in redeeming yourself.

5. You never listen to anyone: You only receive what you give. You expect to get people's ears when you can't listen to simple advice that come from them. Pay more attention to people you relate with, listen more than you speak and you'll complain less of people ignoring you

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5 ways talking to strangers can actually be good for you

Most of us have been helped by a stranger at a point in our lives which couldn't have happened if we kept to ourselves

As little children, we were always warned never to talk to strangers. While this is good advice from our parents to protect us from harm, in the long run, if you stick to just talking to people know, how will you improve yourself?

Most of us have been helped by a stranger at a point in our lives which couldn't have happened if we kept to ourselves, the cause of our discomfort.

Despite the cons, there are advantages of talking to strangers.

According to All Women Stalk, here are ways having conversations with strangers could do you good:

1. You never know where your luck may just happen. Maybe that stranger you struck a conversation with might be your best friend or spouse few years down the line. Or may just be the connection to your dream job.

2.You might start looking at life issues from a different perspective. A stranger's opinion might be all you need to positively change your ideologies about some topics, especially if they know more on that topic than you do.

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3. It's a smart way to boost your confidence. Ever tried approaching someone first with a subject on your mind? It could be extremely liberating, knowing that you successfully drew someone's attention. If you make this a habit, your confidence can be boosted incredibly and your shyness eliminated.

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4. It makes you a great listener and good speaker. If you want to have a successful career, then horning your social skills are extremely important. Having conversations with strangers actually helps because you not only become a good speaker, you become an incredible listener.

5. You can pass time, especially when your environment is boring or you are where you don't wish to be.

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How to overcome being insecure and clingy habits

The fastest way to send your relationship down the road is to smother your partner with clinginess and low self-esteem

 

Self-efficacy and self-esteem is an essential part of humanity. No one want to be with a partner lacking this qualities, or always needy and plea for attention and love.

The fastest way to send your relationship down the road is to smother your partner with clinginess and low self-esteem. Are you the type that think constant affection and adoration from you partner is all you need to feel good about yourself?

Do not let insecurities and clingy habits  falter your beautiful relationship

• Take up other priorities: There are tons of things you can do to make yourself busy to give your partner some space, know that your partner also has a life to live and when he/she is not available to be with you or to talk to you, it’s not a sign that he/she doesn't care about you.
• Moderate the texting limit: you are so in love that you could sit on your phone all day chatting and texting with your partner, but the truth is life and love goes beyond that, flooding your partners phone with messages all day long can get boring set hourly texting limit and keep your calls short It’ll make him/her miss you more.
• Stop acting suspicious: guys/girls can smell your insecurity when you constantly suspect them sniffing his underwear each time he comes home, snooping on his phone, and getting worked up whenever you see them with another female. If you notice anything out of place is better to talk about it.
• Keep your expectations realistic: How possible is it for your partner to update you about their life and activity every hour or so? Respect their space everyone needs some quiet time to get away from it all.
• Don’t stalk him online: do your own thing, your partner has friends to catch up with and should be free to socialize. Don’t spent hours going through all posts on social media, you want make sure he/ she is not having over friendly chats with the opposite sex, such habit shows signs of insecurity.
  
  

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"I don’t think people should ask me why" says Mercy Johnson on her 3rd pregnancy in 4 years

This is the movie star's third pregnancy since she got married in 2011. 

This is the movie star's third pregnancy since she got married in 2011. More than a few people believe that the actress is not spacing her children and she is having kids too fast.

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Well, in a recent interview with Goldmyne TV, Mercy Johnson-Okojie lashed out at those who say she is not practicing pregnancy spacing.

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“I am expecting my third child and I’m a married person so I don’t think people should ask me why. I understand the ethics of spacing kids but I’m a married person and an adult, I can decide the way I want to live my life" said the mother of two.

Mercy Johnson went on to say that people should expect her fourth child shortly after her third child.

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"So yes, I’m having my third baby very soon. Thank you so much for the good wishes, thank you so much for the hate speeches, but save some of the hate speeches because the fourth will soon come to round it up then you can show your anger then but for now it’s good news let’s celebrate.”

Mercy Johnson's first child was born in 2013, while the second child came in 2014.

Check out birthday cake Annie gave 2face

The cake in four-in one featuring a cake that looks like a speaker, a caricature of 2face, the hand of the music legend and a 'big 40' on the last cake. 

 

2face Idibia who is celebrating his 40th birthday today has gotten a special cake from his wife Annie Idibia.

The cake in four-in one featuring a cake that looks like a speaker, a caricature of 2face, the hand of the music legend and a 'big 40' on the last cake.

Annie and 2face Idibia on the cover of Hello! Magazine
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Early this morning Anne Idibia sent 2face a lovely message on Instagram. The actress and mother of two wrote "Happy birthday to the best MAN I know... I love u today n always ... @2faceidibia1 God bless u my darling .. Eternally Yours..."

2face Idibia and Annie Idibia in 'African Queen'
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After several years of on and off dating 2face proposed to Annie in 2012. The pair got married the following year.

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Annie and 2face were recently on the cover of Hello Magazine. In their feature article 2face confessed he would regret it if he lets Annie go.

 

Pop legend speaks about family, hitting 40

In the September edition of Made Magazine, the singer spoke on what it feels to be celebrating his 40-year-old birthday.

 

The birthday boy and Nigerian music legend 2face Idibia has spoken about hitting the grand old age of 40, and the purpose of family.

In the September edition of Made Magazine, the singer spoke on what it feels to be celebrating his 40-year-old birthday. "I feel so fulfilled, thankful to Almighty God for my past, present, future encounters, experiences and success in all my endeavours" he said.

2face's 40th birthday cake from Annie Idibia
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The Hypertek singer then expressed his thoughts about family. "To me, family is everything. Without family, there can't be me. The idea behind family is simple, the family is the only one that wouldn't leave, come rain come shine. I have come to understand that family goes beyond blood ties or marriage, it's way more than that."

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3 tests of love every couple must pass through

Couples intending to get married should put themselves through these tests

 

There are many trials couples go through which will either break or make their marriage. This includes living apart due to job commitments, physical and emotional affairs, coping with in-laws, unemployment or termination of job.

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According to Markman of BlogHer, couples intending to get married should put themselves through these tests before actually doing so:

1. The money test: Being on the same page with your partner concerning finance is very important. Trust and loyalty are built on this. If you can't trust your partner to keep their own end of the bargain in terms of finance, then who would you trust?

2. The shopping test: Try going to local markets where there's no air conditioning, the place unbearably packed to the teeth with people pushing on all sides and you are yet to finish buying the items on your list. You are then forced  to spend hours together making decisions.

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3. The living together test: It doesn't mean you should live together. Just try going on a trip together, where you have to pack and unpack things. This should test your patience with each other.